Theory of Relationships. Part 1
My take on a friend’s blog:
Each of us has different stimuli, different experiences and hence different lives. Each of these experiences, I believe, contributes to us having a unique “Frequency”. Not just people but EVERYthing here has it’s own Frequency.
When we interact with people who operate closer to our frequencies, we feel a sense of comfort, of bonding, of “oneness”. Science calls this resonance…
You must note here that since our frequencies are changing, our relationships with people are also bound to change. Frequencies that matched at some point of time in the past may not match now. People who you though were “so not my type” suddenly are.
Days when you feel blue or down, you feel "out of sync". all that has happened is that your frequiences have rapidly changed and are now clashing with people that you have sorrounded yourself with. What you need is some time... you should get back to normal. In case this is a continued reality maybe, just maybe you need to consider a diffrent reality.
You can call this growth, growing apart (or intimacy). I choose to call it change.
- Time (you have been in a relationship)really doesn’t matter. What matters is how close your frequencies are with each other at that particular point of time.
- YOU are responsible for a relationship. If someone is ‘just impossible to get along with’; you are also at fault.
- You are responsible for sustaining a relationship. Interacting with someone closely will allow you to modulate your frequencies within a “safe band”. A relationship survives. Work on this.
- What grew apart can ALWAYS be mended. Pick up the phone call that friend you knew from long ago.
- Give people a second chance: maybe it just wasn’t the right moment.
More on this later...
1 comment:
Some more twists to the thinking...
WRT You are responsible for sustaining a relationship. think again: I'd say you are responsible for being completely true and compassionate in a relationship. Sometimes compassion and truth require you to let go of the relationship...
What grew apart can always be changed. Mended doesn't appeal to me... It is possible to re-create something, on a totally different track, without any necessary connections to the past avatar of that relationship.
ANd nitpicking... its reiki (rei = universal spirit, ki = life force)
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